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20 Years Later, Same House

My parents were big on road trips when us four kids were growing up. One year we took a road trip from Connecticut to Washington state, where my parents had lived about 20 years prior. Driving past their old house, my mom thought she recognized the people working in the yard next door. So not creepily at all, we slowed to a stop and rolled down the windows of our rented minivan.

“Did you live here 20 years ago? You did? It’s us, we recognize you! Ohmigosh hi!” We must have stayed in these peoples’ house for hours – it was one of those things you have no control over as a kid…the grown-up conversation was SO boring, and lasted SO long. I have absolutely no idea where my sisters went, but they are several years older so it’s possible that they were included in the grown-up conversations. But my brother and I definitely just hung out in these peoples’ kitchen watching their 13″ black and white countertop TV. I’m pretty sure we watched the Munsters – come to think of it, maybe the TV was color and it was just the show that was black and white, who knows.

It was super boring at age 9, or however old I was, but now it’s a fond memory that our entire family remembers differently that we can argue about. And honestly, that’s at least 70% of the fun of memories.

Quit My Job

It feels a little crazy to say, but technically I did quit my job – at least the job I had when I wrote my bucket list, so I’m calling it a win. I had worked for the same company since the beginning of my professional life, when I was 20. I had interned there during college, and then when I decided I wasn’t going back to college, I was able to somehow talk my way into getting a full time job – probably because I was much cheaper than a college grad. I also slid in right before the company started to really look down upon hiring people without a degree. It worked out for me – I was able to work during the day and got my degree at night.

I gave the company about 12 years of my life. There were lots of ups and downs. I probably got my job in the first place because a couple members of my family had jobs in the company, and I enjoyed being able to see them around the office occasionally. I met most of my lasting friends there, although at this point several of us don’t work there anymore. I met and fell in love with my husband at work.

But a few years back the company was sold to a different large corporation. At first the changes were minimal, or didn’t affect me. However, within a couple years the changes did start to impact my job directly. My entire job turned into moving data from our old system into a new system. The switch did not seem to be worth it to me, and I felt like I was being forced to stress out and sideline my personal life for something that was a complete waste of time. Everything I had enjoyed about my job, I no longer had time for, and everything I hated about my job became amplified.

My sister told me of a possible opening in the company she worked for, and after some consideration I updated my resume and sent it to her. And then she made a handful of changes to make my resume sound better, and passed it along. The process was long, though not grueling. I did a phone interview and then waited, hearing nothing for about a month. In the meantime, I had decided it would be best to keep up the search. No harm in looking, and I found that as I started looking, I lost some of the anxiety around leaving my job and the place of employment that had become my second home. The best part of the job had always been the interesting and supportive people who started as co-workers and turned into close friends. But the more I thought about it, the more I knew that close friends would remain friends, regardless of where I worked.

I searched for jobs within my company and applied to a couple. I made a habit of searching local jobs every couple of weeks to get an idea of what was available. Completely unexpectedly, about halfway through December, I received a call from the company I had interviewed with, asking if I could start before the end of the year. I would like to say I thought long and hard at this point, but I was ready – I accepted almost immediately. The compensation was comparable, I’d be working closely with my sister and others in a small group that is amazingly supportive, and the best part is that I work from home .

So yes, I’m still doing office work, and honestly it’s not my dream job, but it’s a job and not my life, and aside from “professional vacationer” I’m not sure what my dream job even is. I enjoy my job; I like my co-workers; I believe in the company’s mission; I still see and keep in touch with my friends from my last job; and I can take advantage of the incredible flexibility that working remotely has provided. In short, mission accomplished – I quit my job!

Go on a Cruise

I recently went on my first cruise with my daughter, a friend of mine, and my friend’s two kids. I have been wanting to go on a cruise for years. After my husband passed away I decided my little kiddo deserved a really awesome birthday present, and this cruise idea was hatched. No one in my immediate family has ever shown any interest in taking a cruise, I explained to my friend, and it might be tough to take this trip solo. “I’ll go on a cruise with you!” she said. That same day we started researching, and after a couple weeks of contemplation decided on the cruise we would take. It would have to be a short cruise – three or four days maximum. We wanted to take a Disney cruise for optimal kid activities. They offered a three day Bahamas cruise that seemed to hit the mark, allowing for enough time for fun, but not enough time that the kids would go insane and end up fighting the whole time. This was especially important for us when taking into account the information that my daughter and her son are both four years old and have a tendency to argue about everything.

In order to go to the Bahamas, we were required to either get passports, or bring along several forms of identification. So I got us passports, and I’m very excited about this because it means that now there’s one less barrier to traveling out of the country in the future!

I was unsure of how much I would like the cruise, another reason for choosing a shorter duration. I was pleased to find that neither my daughter nor I had any sea sickness. I loved the food and the food selection, and I loved that there was a self-service soft serve ice cream machine onboard. I loved the free entertainment and the constant stream of activities that are available – whether or not you choose to participate. In particular, each night there are two performances of a Broadway-quality, kid-friendly show. The two showings occur during dinner time, so you can always attend your assigned dinner time and the show during the other dinner time slot. Because my daughter tends to get a little cranky at that time of night, we only ended up going to one show, which was Beauty and the Beast. It was truly amazing. I was unsure how my four year old would react – if she’d be scared by the Beast, if she’d be bored…but she loved it! Granted, we ended up leaving right after Tale as Old as Time because she was about to pee her pants, but everything up until then was outstanding.

I may have to write more about the cruise in another post because there is absolutely so much to talk about, and I had meant for this to be more of a, “yay! I did it!” post.

By the end of the cruise, I could definitely see why some people go on dozens of cruises and absolutely love it, and I could also understand why some people never ever have any desire to cruise at all.

In a very general sense, the pros as I see them are that everything is truly taken care of. You don’t have to worry about cooking, cleaning, transportation, plans. There is a definite luxury in having everything you really need within walking distance.

Generally, the drawbacks as I see them are that you are in very close proximity with a whole lot of people and you can’t easily escape or isolate yourself. There is also the fact that any place where a cruise ship pulls up will naturally be much more touristy, so you’re not necessarily getting the authentic local flavor.

So naturally, after disembarking, I began looking at more cruises to see what types and destinations there are available. The ones that really caught my attention were three to four month long world cruises. Now that really does sound like a unique experience! Yes, they’re expensive, but I have to imagine they’re worth it! That’s your room, board, meals, and an actual vacation all rolled into one. I’m sure those ships are full of retirees, but imagine visiting dozens of countries while maintaining a constant home base onboard. The biggest opportunity I see is that you can get a taste of each country or region and decide which you’d like to visit again in the future, if any.

Therefore, without further ado, I’m officially adding “travel around the world” to my bucket list! I figure that by the time I actually go to do it, maybe I’ll have worked out a plan that includes multiple forms of transportation, so I’m leaving myself a little wiggle room there. In terms of cruising, I’d most definitely do it again!

Cruise Memories

My 4-year-old daughter and I recently went on a Disney cruise and it was pretty awesome. The line to go through security in the airport was pretty long on the way home, so I asked her if she was going to tell Grandma about the cruise.

“You can,” she answered, and returned to sucking her thumb.

“Well, I’m sure Grandma wants to hear about what you liked on our vacation!” I encouraged.

She thought for only a moment then said excitedly, “I likeded the donuts!”

Dunkin’ Donuts. I should have known that would be the best part of the cruise.

My Bucket List

Learn to rock climb
Change a tire
Get a tattoo
Learn self-defense (krav maga)
Invest in real estate
Go ziplining
Have a blog
Run an ultramarathon
Complete all of the run Disney challenges
Volunteer with the Red Cross
Learn to shoot a gun
Go on a cruise – completed April, 2019!
Volunteer at a race or event
Go skydiving
Be a Title 9 model
Learn to waterski
Go white water kayaking
Go on a kayaking camping trip
Take an overnight trip on a train
Go whitewater rafting
Mush a dogsled team
Be part of Team in Training again
Go go-karting
Do that thing where you jump off a mountain on a kite
Hot air balloon
Climb Kilimanjaro
Climb Everest
Climb Rainier
Either own an island or have a house on an island
Be able to pay for daughter’s college
Be able to encourage my daughter to do whatever she wants to do in life
Take a humanitarian trip
Learn survival skills
Go to another country for a race/event
Learn to sail
Spelunk
Stonehenge
Ancient Aliens sites
Go to all Canadian provinces
Go to Oak Island
Go to the Olympics
Complete a triathlon
Get sponsored for running
Adventure show!!
Visit all 50 states (driving through doesn’t count!)
Complete a marathon in all 50 states
Visit all National Parks
Hike the Appalachian Trail
Learn to surf
Go on a safari
Take a sailing trip (overnight)
Sleep in an igloo
See the Northern AND Southern Lights
See the Great Barrier Reef
See a total solar eclipse
See a total lunar eclipse
See the Pyramids
Hike all the National Scenic Trails
Learn to ride a motorcycle
Visit an active archaeological dig site
Quit my job
Own my own business – be my own boss
Make a living through my creativity
Become a millionaire
Write a book
Visit all continents
Travel around the world (added 4/30/19)

Greetings and Welcome!

The past several months have been a lot for me.  I have a four year old daughter and my husband just died from kidney and liver failure at age 37 (he was an alcoholic).  I always feel like I need to add the qualifier that we had been separated for about two and a half years before he passed away, though still legally married.

I am in the process of closing out my late husband’s estate, which is a laborious process in which every single task seems to require at least three times the effort than it should (seriously, though).

Because life is life, I was also just diagnosed with type 1 diabetes.

I’ve always felt this driving urge to do big, adventurous things and complete my extensive bucket list.  Typically, my issue is narrowing down everything I want to do to what’s achievable.  And every time I do something amazing or accomplish something, I just get more inspired and motivated to keep adding to my bucket list because each experience leads to so many more opportunities.

So I’ve decided, no more narrowing down what I want to do – I want to do everything!